Men: 3 tips for surviving Christmas

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Not only is it a busy time for the person preparing the Christmas Day celebrations, but tension can run in families where couples do not agree on the style of celebrations. Do you recognise the scenario?
Lets look at some tips for the man of the house….. Tip #1  Remember your partner is doing their best to make Christmas a joyous and happy time for all. A little encouragement can go a long way. Tip #2 Rather than complain about the amount of money being spent, try to find some alternative treats or better still make or cook some. Tip #3 Try not to be grumpy if the treats you want are not the same as those your loved ones want. Flexibility at least for Christmas Day will bring family harmony. Apologies for these suggestions to the men who are encouraging, relaxed about the money being spent and flexible with doing what the rest of the family wants on Christmas Day…… 3 tips tomorrow for women on surviving Christmas.

Silence: does it help calm our brains and give well-being?

Many people do not value silence. I have found it to be comforting, nourishing and cosy.

The noisy world is drowning out our creativity and our inner connection. Noise effects our brains causing elevated levels of stress hormones even when we are sleeping. When I was a busy, working Mum most of my day was with other people and their noise. Being on my own in silence was refreshing.

In 2011, the World Health Organisation (WHO) concluded that the 340 million residents of Western Europe (about the population of the United States), were losing a million years of healthy life every year, due to noise.

Science is now showing that silence may be just what we need to regenerate our exhausted brains and bodies. Two-minute silences are far more relaxing for the brain than relaxing music.

Science has the proof not only that noise hurts, but also that silence heals. Two hours of silence per day prompts cell development in the hippocampus, the brain region related to the formation of memory, involving the senses.

With our digital world, our brains get less time to switch off. The constant demands of modern life are placing a lot of stress on our prefrontal cortex–the part of the brain responsible for making decisions, solving problems and more. When we spend time alone in silence, our brains are able to relax and release this constant focus.

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ancient spiritual masters have known this all along; silence heals, silence takes us deeply into ourselves, and silence balances the body and mind. read more

Send love to someone you cannot meet

I am learning from giving virtual reiki sessions over WhatsApp in lockdown London, that distance is absolutely no problem for energy. My friends and customers are amazed that it feels the same as when I am in the same room as them.

Love is intelligent energy and has no bounds.

So with this post of the Kyoto Garden in Holland Park, London I am sending my love to my friend Hitomi in Tokyo. Normally she visits us every other year but she has not been able to come due to the virus. Hitomi, we are missing you and hope we can meet again sometime soon.

Try watching this short video and send your love to someone you cannot meet at the moment.

A message of love for a loved one

How are we coping with so many people dying of Covid-19?

Grieving for a loss or trying to support someone who has lost a loved one?

All of us experience grief at some point in our lives.  When we experience it for the first time it can come as quite a shock.  It is often not talked about so it is hard to know how to deal with it.

In the UK over 100,000 people have passed as a direct result of catching Covid-19. On average for each person who passes, 8 – 10 people feel the loss of them in their lives.

The population of the UK is approximately 68m people and up to 1m of them are currently grieving. Many of them are young adults who did not expect to loose a parent so soon. 1m people is nearly 1.5% of the population, so probably all of us know someone who has lost a loved one and is grieving. The UK is not the only country in this situation.

What can we do to support the grieving?

Feel good: find ways of putting things into perspective

Finding January a challenging month? Or perhaps there is something else in your life which is spoiling your calmness and well-being, giving you worry and anxiety.

Each of us runs our own lives and we can seek out ways of improving our well-being. This is not about expensive classes or time consuming activities. Music and singing can be listened to, or joined in with, as we travel to work or do domestic tasks.

Deva Premal and Miten give us an overview of what is possible and how it helped them.

Listen here

More of Deva and Miten’s music can be found here

Try some of the free music samples. This one is to be recommended. I thoroughly enjoyed it FREE SAMPLE 

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Relaxation: learn to breath deeply and consciously

Mindfulness is a commonly used term these days. However it is true that breathing consciously or just being still brings calmness which enhances your concentration, lowers blood pressure and aids sleep quality. All are good for enhancing your performance at work and improves your well-being.

The simplest way to induce stillness is to take deep breaths.

I work at home on my own. It can be hard to keep my boundaries between home and work life. Each day I go for a walk, preferably in the park. Today I tried conscious breathing to see if it improved me living in the moment and finding happiness in that moment. It is a simple exercise;

  1.  Take a deep breath in – say ‘In’.
  2.  Breath out – say ‘Out’.

Repeat this at least 3 times. As you breath in, your mind and body becomes peaceful. As you breath out, all that you do not want leaves you, it may be frustration, upset, boredom.

Recently I have found that when I go for my walk I am thinking about all the things I need to get done, my back is bowed and I am looking at the ground. This is not good for me. Today I did this exercise in the park with people walking around me with some surprising results.

I was standing amongst some trees and I noticed the brown, dry autumn leaves on the ground. A rather fat squirrel was running towards me. I suspect he had got used to being fed by humans. When I did not offer anything, he ran off. Two big, black crows were looking amongst the leaves for grubs. Suddenly they took to their wings and flew to the tree tops. My eyes followed them. I noticed a green parakeet, you increasingly see them as they have escaped captivity. They add a splash of colour to our parks. Then I noticed the clouds scudding across the sky and heard the cry of sea gulls. It must be stormy at sea and they have moved inland. As the crow flies, London is really not far from the sea.

All of this happened in a matter of a few minutes. I felt calm, contented and happy. For this precious time, I had left my worries behind. Afterwards I felt both relaxed and energised. A good way to start my afternoon.

The exercise is simple, can be done anywhere and gives great benefits. Try to repeat it everyday at the same time to make it a habit.  When I was in a stressful corporate job I did this exercise after my drive to work before I went into the office. I started my day … feeling calm and competent.

Be kind to yourself – learn to relax

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