Grieving over the loss of a loved one?

All of us experience grief at some point in our lives. When we experience it for the first time, it can come as quite a shock. It is often not talked about so it is hard to know how to deal with it.

When someone you love dies it can leave a big hole in your life. It can feel like life is no longer worth living. If there has been an illness and anticipation of death, you may have had the opportunity to say the important things you wanted to say such as how much you love each other or maybe forgiveness for a perceived wrong. read more

Back to work: how do you keep the relaxed feel from the break?

Many of us have now gone back to work.  After the long Festive break, you will be adjusting back to the relentless pace of business.

Stress resides not in the mind but in the nervous system. Our ‘fight or flight’ response raises our cortisol level causing the sympathetic nervous system to activate. Our bodies are designed for a raised cortisol level but only in short bursts to aid our survival. However in our modern ‘always on the go’ life style, many people live with chronic raised cortisol levels leading to slow digestion, sleep disruption and other side effects. read more

Feeling sad when everyone else is happy?

Sadness often goes hand-in-hand with loneliness. You can feel lonely in an unhappy relationship, family or city. Humans are tribal by nature so loneliness is the hardest of conditions. I experienced loneliness as a widow in my 40s. With two children life was very busy but inside I had an aching loneliness. I count my blessings that I fell in love again and my husband came with a large, boisterous and loving family.

Over Christmas and the New Year festivities many of us have enjoyed time with friends and family – even if there were some irritations along the way. Sadly many have spent this time alone. Or a person who normally lives alone, who has spent time with people, is now faced with going home to a lonely life. How daunting is that? read more

Happy wishing for your coming year

Now is the time between Christmas and the start of 2025 to reflect.

What did you experience in 2024 and what would you like to bring in for you and your loved ones for 2025?

Think about the things that went well for you in the last year. For me 2024 was a mixed year. I made some good progress as an author publishing my fourth book and starting my next one. I have continued to grow the number of people who seek my assistance with personal and spiritual growth.  My greatest delight has been my granddaughter who was one in November. As the saying goes read more

Women: the secrets of surviving Christmas

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course, this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period.

Do you recognise the scenario?

Lovely as Christmas can be, it takes a lot of work to make it a success. Often all of those preparations are not recognised. Others may say

How hard can it be, its only one day! read more

Who loves you unconditionally?

Who gives you unconditional love when you need it most?

We all need unconditional love at some point in our lives.

Life can be full of challenges.

When you have lost something or someone you love and value, is when you are most likely to need comfort and support. Perhaps you have lost a child, partner, home, business or a job. All can leave you feeling bereft and upset as if your whole life is falling apart.

Even in adulthood, you can often crave your mum or someone else special whom you loved as you were growing up. From as early as you can remember, your mum was the one who picked you up when you had fallen over.

 

Mum is the person who loves you no matter what has happened.

 

When I was unexpectedly widowed in my 40s, I was so grateful I still had my mum. It was her love that got me out of bed in the morning. She nurtured me back to life. She gave me comfort when I was down. Then she turned me around and told me to go out and rebuild my life.

A mum’s love can be tough at times.

But she was right….

I wasn’t going to improve my life mopping around home.

Mum: maybe she is the very person you have lost, perhaps she has passed. It’s tough no matter how old you are.

I love my mum and the unconditional love she always gave me.

You never really loose your mum. She is always in your heart, and she feels your love as you do hers.

Now you realise it really is time to grow, to be able

to provide unconditional love and wisdom to the next generation. read more