love

Grieving over the loss of a loved one?

All of us experience grief at some point in our lives. When we experience it for the first time, it can come as quite a shock. It is often not talked about so it is hard to know how to deal with it.

When someone you love dies it can leave a big hole in your life. It can feel like life is no longer worth living. If there has been an illness and anticipation of death, you may have had the opportunity to say the important things you wanted to say such as how much you love each other or maybe forgiveness for a perceived wrong. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Family: love them or hate them?

We all have a family. I believe a better name for family is ‘loved ones’ which also includes friends, colleagues, neighbours, pets and more. Your family teaches you throughout your life to give and to receive love.

Love is such a powerful emotion – love for a child, a parent, a friend.  Enjoying that love is wonderful, loss of that love can be truly painful.

Love heals, makes you laugh and generally makes life worth living.

Here are my views on love:

Loving is for all, not just your partner, family and friends. It should also include yourself! Often, the most unlovable people are those that gain the most value from your love, be it a smile, a kind word or an offer of help. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Friends: 3 characteristics of a good friend

A friendship can strike up quickly between you and another person or it may grow over time.  Both are valid approaches to establishing a friendship.  At some point you will realise they are important to you.  Your relationship may display many of these characteristics;

  • challenge you making the relationship exciting and fun.
  • stay with you through the good times and the sad times.
  • supportive of each other – your hopes, desires and fears.

Often conversation bounces backwards and forwards between you with each of you listening and giving a considered reply.  Good friends love you and can feel as comfortable as an old pair of slippers!

You feel able to ask them for their help and they are there for you if your world comes tumbling down. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Women: the secrets of surviving Christmas

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course, this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period.

Do you recognise the scenario?

Lovely as Christmas can be, it takes a lot of work to make it a success. Often all of those preparations are not recognised. Others may say

How hard can it be, its only one day! read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Are you experiencing the full potential of love?

Love comes in many shapes and forms

Whenever anyone speaks of love, they are often referring to romantic love between two people. I believe that love is infinite and can come in many forms. If romantic love was the only form of love, it would be quite exclusive and in limited quantities. It would be a hard world with only this type of love available to give and receive.

Fortunately for us love comes in many forms – parental, family, friends, pets, yourself. All of the important people in your life are available for you to love. In my view love is infinite and the more of it in your life, the richer it will be. Some people believe that you cannot possibly love a step or adopted child as much as a biological child. I disagree with this view. I think the choice is yours to decide how much you open your heart to love a person.

Love yourself. Many people ask me what this truly is. Lots of people don’t really love and respect themselves. This means taking care of your body, emotions and mind. You don’t need romantic love to feel loved. You can love yourself, such as giving yourself a treat at the end of a hard week. It need not be something big. It could be as simple as a beautiful coffee with your feet up on the sofa. Women in particular are not always good at loving themselves. Culturally they are often raised to give rather than to receive – caring for children or aging parents as an example. In a fast moving world, each of us need not to loose sight of ourselves. You need to remember to honour and love yourself. It is a key form of love.

Love is an emotion you can feel in your heart which I assume is why so many pictures of love use a heart to depict it. If you focus on your heart and think of someone you love, you will most likely get a feeling in your heart.

Love comes in many shapes. It can come in an act of kindness such as making someone a cup of tea for someone when they arrive home from work tired. An act done with love, rather than resentment or annoyance, has a different quality.

Love is a powerful energy with the ability to transform. Where there is a difficult situation with conflict and anger, you can wish love on it and it will sooth the situation. Love is a healing energy which has the capacity for enabling significant change. The situation can be a personal one or a national or global one. Given the tensions in our world today, any love you offer is very worthwhile. You do not need romantic love to experience love.

The power of payer, I believe, is an example of the potential change love being placed on a person or situation can bring about. Give ‘wishing love’ a try. You need to wish love without expectation of the outcome. It is the receivers right to choose whether to accept it.

If you have a question or want to book an appointment with me, Alison Wem, for healing, spiritual guidance, intuitive life

guidance, or mediumship, read more

By Alison Wem, ago

The Secrets of 3 types of love

Love comes in many shapes and forms

Whenever anyone speaks of love, they are often referring to romantic love between two people. I believe that love is infinite and can come in many forms. If romantic love was the only form of love, it would be quite exclusive and in limited quantities. It would be a hard world with only this type of love available to give and receive.

Fortunately for us love comes in many forms – parental, family, friends, pets, yourself. All of the important people in your life are available for you to love. In my view love is infinite and the more of it in your life, the richer it will be. Some people believe that you cannot possibly love a step or adopted child as much as a biological child. I disagree with this view. I think the choice is yours to decide how much you open your heart to love a person.

#1   Love is an emotion you can feel in your heart which I assume is why so many pictures of love use a heart to depict it. If you focus on your heart and think of someone you love, you will most likely get a feeling in your heart.

#2   Love comes in many shapes. It can come in an act of kindness such as making someone a cup of tea when they arrive home from work tired. An act done with love, rather than resentment or annoyance, has a different quality.

#3   Love is a powerful energy with the ability to transform. Where there is a difficult situation with conflict and anger, you can wish love on it and it will sooth the situation. Love is a healing energy which has the capacity for enabling significant change. The situation can be a personal one or a national or global one. Given the tensions in our world today, any love you offer is very worthwhile. You do not need romantic love to experience love.

The power of payer I believe is an example of the potential change love being placed on a person or situation can bring about. It is statistically proven that an ill person who is prayed for has a greater chance of becoming well again. Such is the power of love.

Give ‘wishing love’ a try. You need to wish love without expectation of the outcome. Close your eyes and give it a go. You may feel your heart swell. I have just wished love on a friend who has lost her job and is desperately trying to find another one. I feel this is my way of helping her.

Of course, it is the receivers right to choose whether to accept it.

 

By Alison Wem, ago

Needing some extra love?

Feeling in the need of an extra hug and some love?

The perceived wisdom is that you should be able to love yourself and not have to rely on someone else to provide the love in our life. I find this hard or perhaps I lack the imagination to know how to love myself. So I will let you into my secret on how to boost the love in your life.

When I was training as a medium, our teacher asked her students to feel the love attached to some cards she had received from friends and family and to read the messages, When someone sends you a card their love attaches to it and arrives with card on your door mat.

Everyone has the ability to feel this love, you do not need any training. This is why you are so disappointed if a loved one forgets a special day. It is not the card you miss but the love attached to it. How marvellous that the birthday card from a loved one is not just for one day. With this in mind, I now keep my cards and put a display of particularly special or poignant cards from my loved ones in my kitchen.

This is a picture of the cupboard in the corner of my kitchen. Like most women, I spend a lot of time in this room. When I am ironing I can feel their love which puts a smile on my face. Whenever I need a boost in my life, I stand directly in front of the display of cards. Love is an energy and its good to feel it.

 

 

 

 

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By Alison Wem, ago