Women: the secrets of surviving Christmas

Published by Alison Wem on

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course, this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period.

Do you recognise the scenario?

Lovely as Christmas can be, it takes a lot of work to make it a success. Often all of those preparations are not recognised. Others may say

How hard can it be, its only one day!

But it doesn’t feel like that to you…..

However there are things women can do to help themselves. Let’s look at some tips for the woman of the house…..

Tip #1  Stay calm – remember that the people coming on Christmas Day are friends and family. The day is not a test, they love you. Everything does not have to be perfect, only you want that.  Do not be afraid to delegate tasks.

Tip #2 Spend only the cash your family can afford. When you love people it is always tempting to want to get them a great present, especially children. Overspending is often a key cause of tension between couples. Get creative and make some of your presents. Better still delegate some of them to your partner.

Tip #3  It is your Christmas too! Try to get a rest during the day. Allow your family to make you a cup of tea or pour you a drink. Make sure you are sitting down while you enjoy it.

Apologies for these suggestions to the women who are calm, manage their budget well and are good at delegating so they can enjoy Christmas too….

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Everyone should have a dream of how they would like their life to be.  Dreams are made to be followed.

Do you remember your dreams?

Everybody dreams but sometimes it is difficult to remember them. If this is the case, before you go to bed write on a piece of paper a question about something you would like to happen in your life. Leave the rest of the paper blank with the pen on top of it beside your bed. Your soul will not be able to resist giving you something during the night to write on it.

As soon as you wake up, before you even put your foot on the floor – write whatever comes to your mind. Make some notes about the ideas and dreams you were given.

It is very easy to lose these ideas if you do another activity, even running to the bathroom or making a quick cup of tea. As you have your morning shower think some more about what you wrote on the paper. Some more ideas might come to you. Quickly add them to you piece of paper.

Do this for a number of nights and see what your dreams are telling you. The dream could be literal but it could also be symbolic. You will need to consider which it is. Dreams can be more fantastic than everyday life.

Your dream may include a visit from a passed loved one. Consider if they gave you good council in their life time.

Sometimes the dream is about something in the future which may not be meaningful until you get there.

How did you feel when you woke up?

Dreams can inspire you, alert you to a future potential danger or just be full of love, support and information.

You will need to consider the dream to know what it is saying to you. Then think about;

What action should you take to honour the dreams you are having?

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To enjoy your life to the full, it is important to take some steps, no matter how small they are, to achieving your dreams.

This post is dedicated to those struggling to follow their dreams and to find joy.

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Finding the courage to lead the life you desire

Are you fed-up or dissatisfied with your life?

The choices you make today give you the life you experience tomorrow and onwards. Sometimes it takes courage to make the choices you know that are right for you.

Perhaps your decision involves walking away from someone or something which is alright but not great for you. If it was really bad, you probably wouldn’t find it difficult but this grey in- between area is much more difficult. What if I walk away from my partner but never find love again? Thoughts can race around your head and make you miserable.

Courage is about finding your inner strength to face your fear with confidence.

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You are much stronger than perhaps you realise. Making the decisions which lead to a life you desire is not so difficult once you get started.

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It does take courage to be the authentic you and to live the life you desire. But I can honestly say, it is worthwhile. You feel happier and there is no pretence in your life.

Pretending to be who or what you are not, can be so energy sapping.

It was a journey becoming truly my authentic me. I found taking little steps at a time less scary. I did meet some challenging people along the way. But I also met some wonderful people too.

Ultimately, I found the courage to make the right decisions for me about my life.

And you can too….

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Is kindness worth the effort?

When I was growing up, I used to play with a small group of girls who lived nearby. Generally, we all got on and we played happily together. After the long summer holidays together, perhaps we had spent too much time together and one of us would say or do something unkind.

When I used to go running to my mum upset, she did not say – oh you poor thing. Instead, she used to ask me to imagine how that person must feel inside to be so unkind. I should feel grateful that I didn’t feel like that.

A little kindness can go a long way.

The pain from unkindness can be intense. It doesn’t remain in childhood with friendship upsets. Unkindness can appear in adult life, often when you least expect it and sometimes from those closest to you such as a partner. The pain can go straight to your heart and make you feel wretched. When you feel like that, it is really hard to step back and not give some unkind response aimed to hurt. But in doing this, the only person you really hurt is yourself. If you are trying to live by strong life values, being unkind is not one of them.

When someone is unkind to you, being unkind to them back is not the right response.

The best way to counter unkindness is to show kindness. It may not be a big thing but a thoughtful, gentle kindness. In being kind to the other person, you are honouring yourself and being kind to yourself too.

We have all been unkind sometime, often through thoughtlessness rather than malicious intent. It takes consideration to use kind words, kind words can be healing, loving and inspiring.

Kindness is such a good contribution to make to this world of ours.

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This post is dedicated to those who try to practice kind words and acts of kindness.