compassion

Feeling sad when everyone else is happy?

Sadness often goes hand-in-hand with loneliness. You can feel lonely in an unhappy relationship, family or city. Humans are tribal by nature so loneliness is the hardest of conditions. I experienced loneliness as a widow in my 40s. With two children life was very busy but inside I had an aching loneliness. I count my blessings that I fell in love again and my husband came with a large, boisterous and loving family.

Over Christmas and the New Year festivities many of us have enjoyed time with friends and family – even if there were some irritations along the way. Sadly many have spent this time alone. Or a person who normally lives alone, who has spent time with people, is now faced with going home to a lonely life. How daunting is that? read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Happy wishing for your coming year

Now is the time between Christmas and the start of 2025 to reflect.

What did you experience in 2024 and what would you like to bring in for you and your loved ones for 2025?

Think about the things that went well for you in the last year. For me 2024 was a mixed year. I made some good progress as an author publishing my fourth book and starting my next one. I have continued to grow the number of people who seek my assistance with personal and spiritual growth.  My greatest delight has been my granddaughter who was one in November. As the saying goes read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Women: the secrets of surviving Christmas

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course, this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period.

Do you recognise the scenario?

Lovely as Christmas can be, it takes a lot of work to make it a success. Often all of those preparations are not recognised. Others may say

How hard can it be, its only one day! read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Who loves you unconditionally?

Who gives you unconditional love when you need it most?

We all need unconditional love at some point in our lives.

Life can be full of challenges.

When you have lost something or someone you love and value, is when you are most likely to need comfort and support. Perhaps you have lost a child, partner, home, business or a job. All can leave you feeling bereft and upset as if your whole life is falling apart.

Even in adulthood, you can often crave your mum or someone else special whom you loved as you were growing up. From as early as you can remember, your mum was the one who picked you up when you had fallen over.

 

Mum is the person who loves you no matter what has happened.

 

When I was unexpectedly widowed in my 40s, I was so grateful I still had my mum. It was her love that got me out of bed in the morning. She nurtured me back to life. She gave me comfort when I was down. Then she turned me around and told me to go out and rebuild my life.

A mum’s love can be tough at times.

But she was right….

I wasn’t going to improve my life mopping around home.

Mum: maybe she is the very person you have lost, perhaps she has passed. It’s tough no matter how old you are.

I love my mum and the unconditional love she always gave me.

You never really loose your mum. She is always in your heart, and she feels your love as you do hers.

Now you realise it really is time to grow, to be able

to provide unconditional love and wisdom to the next generation. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Needing some extra love?

Feeling in the need of an extra hug and some love?

The perceived wisdom is that you should be able to love yourself and not have to rely on someone else to provide the love in our life. I find this hard or perhaps I lack the imagination to know how to love myself. So I will let you into my secret on how to boost the love in your life.

When I was training as a medium, our teacher asked her students to feel the love attached to some cards she had received from friends and family and to read the messages, When someone sends you a card their love attaches to it and arrives with card on your door mat.

Everyone has the ability to feel this love, you do not need any training. This is why you are so disappointed if a loved one forgets a special day. It is not the card you miss but the love attached to it. How marvellous that the birthday card from a loved one is not just for one day. With this in mind, I now keep my cards and put a display of particularly special or poignant cards from my loved ones in my kitchen.

This is a picture of the cupboard in the corner of my kitchen. Like most women, I spend a lot of time in this room. When I am ironing I can feel their love which puts a smile on my face. Whenever I need a boost in my life, I stand directly in front of the display of cards. Love is an energy and its good to feel it.

 

 

 

 

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By Alison Wem, ago

2023! What can you expect from the coming year?

January brings a fresh start: simplify your life to allow more space for joy….

At the moment there is plenty in the world to worry about – inflation, energy crisis, war, mortgage and rent increases. Many of my friends have said they have stopped reading the news as much of it promotes fear or is depressing.

You are part of humanity and your behaviour has an impact whether you consciously recognise it or not. You are part of the collective consciousness of humanity and therefore contribute to steering our journey.

World calamities give us good reasons to change. Some call it the ‘burning ground’ and it’s a driver for doing things differently from the past.

What can I do that impacts national issues?

If you look at humanity globally and saw them as you see your family e.g., if someone is upset it upsets you; a more caring behaviour comes to the fore. It makes our differences of colour, gender, religion, country and many other things seem irrelevant.

How can I influence such a big family?

Your fears add to a general climate of fear and the behaviours it stimulates such as anger, territorialism, overstocking on goods. But

  • Calmness in the face of calamities creates a more positive response enabling you and others to take actions to mitigate the impact of the calamity.
  • Kindness: Help someone in your community. They will feel better and so will you.
  • Compassion: be kind to struggling family and friends.

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    By Alison Wem, ago