Believe your life challenge is too large?

Published by Alison Wem on

We all have a tendency to feel sorry for ourselves. Nobody has everything. Even the rich and the successful have their challenges. If you followed them home there may be problems with infidelity, a sick child or perhaps fear of redundancy.

Matilda was from a successful family. She had become a successful teacher but the role had long hours and was burning her out and causing her problems with her boyfriend. She made the decision to change career. However to make the change she would have to take a salary cut. Fearful of telling her parents, she confided in her grandad. To her surprise he said;

We love you for who you are not what you are. All we want is for you to be happy and healthy.

After one false start, Matilda is now happily working in a new career and has a new boyfriend too!

I believe your back grows broad enough to bear the challenges you are faced with. You will not be given a challenge that you cannot cope with, even if it means making the decision and having the strength to walk away from it.

Find the strength to look your challenge in the face.

Frame it with hope rather than despair and you might be surprised with what you discover. Admittedly you might have to either;

  • accept the situation for what it is,
  • just let it go,
  • take action to move yourself to a different and better place.

By taking control of the situation and deciding how you will re-act to it will give you confidence in yourself. You will feel hope again and with that an ability to experience joy. Life really is for living and enjoying. It may not be a perfect life but it will be the life of your choosing.

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Conscious Mind

Does your intuition really give good guidance?

Intuition has been recognised over the ages as a ‘gut feeling’ which lets you know if something is not right. Intuition can be much more than an alert mechanism. For me it is a beacon which you can use to listen to messages of guidance from your soul, guide and spirit. It works two ways, so you can ask questions too. Over time you will learn to distinguish the different feel of you soul, guide and spirit so you will know who you are talking to.

How do I feel my intuition?

The messages are not usually in words. They come more as a sensing or knowing. You may also start to see situations or people through your mind’s eye. When I was first training as a medium, I used to look at people with human eyes. But as I learnt to use all of my senses, I started to use my mind’s eye which is the 3rd eye chakra between your brows. It can look more deeply and give you more insight into what is happening in your life. My 3rd eye then connected with my heart and I could feel in my heart what was right. This is why when you ‘speak from your heart’ people hear the truth and authenticity of what you are saying. If you look at public speakers when this moment arrives, without realising it, they often put their hand on their heart.

We all have intuition but somehow over history we have supressed the use of it. It’s a good resource and gives good advice so why not make use of it. The more you use it, the easier it becomes.

What can I use my intuition for?

You don’t need to reserve it for those most challenging times. You can use it for everyday decisions and living. I’ve used it to find lost reading glasses, deciding on how long to set the microwave for individual dishes, knowing where someone has gone and many other everyday situations.

How reliable is the advice from my intuition?

Can you be sure you have received the message correctly? If you are not sure, put it to one side and try listening again another day. If the message is the same, you have probably heard it correctly. It takes time to build up confidence in the messages so you can trust them. Try it out on small things in your life first to enable the trust to build. Even in a busy environment, you can take three deep breaths and go to that quiet place inside. Here is the easiest space to ask a question and to feel the reply. The more you practice and observe, the more you will tap into a deep knowledge and wisdom.

Can I use it at work as well as at home?

You take yourself everywhere you go – so yes! Intuition is more objective and wiser than your normal self. It is full of compassion and love for you. It is never cross, critical or impatient with you. If you receive messages like this, it is your ego talking so don’t listen to it. Of course, in all of this don’t cut your brain off. Still consider a situation with your logical brain for the positives and negatives of it. But then let go and ask your intuition what it thinks. I have seen a Marketing Director in a FTSE100 company listen to the facts of a project, then put his hand on his heart and listen to his intuition. He was a successful man.

Using your intuition effectively takes practice. The more you use it, the more comfortable you will feel about it. Here is a good way of practicing;

  1. Close your eyes and focus on your heart.
  2. Take 3 deep breaths
  3. Think of someone or something that you love.
  4. Think of something you want help with in your life – it could be on a job, health, where to live….
  5. Ask 3 questions;

What do I want to know now?

What can I do to help myself?

        Ask a question that is most important in your life now

  1. Take a deep breath and say thank you
  2. Open your eyes.

Good luck with connecting with your intuition. If you have questions or need more advice, send me a text +44 7966 137568 I will be happy to advise.

Emotions

How do I move forward after great loss?

Loss comes in many forms. A sense of loss is felt when you no longer have a person you love in your life or something such as a job, business or a home. The cause of the loss is varied such as death, a breakup, redundancy, a failed mortgage, but the outcome, a horrible feeling that strikes right at your heart, is the same.

For me loss and fear feel very similar. I lost my husband through an unexpected death in my 40s and experienced real fear from a very public failure of a business project I was leading in my 50s. Both had an enormous impact on my life and my security.

Loss and fear strike right at your heart as if someone has stabbed you.

How do you recover from such a strong emotion it affects you physically? You can’t make the loss go away. It is what it is.

Allow yourself to feel the pain and then let it go. It is not healthy to hold onto the pain as it will ultimately affect your body. In many cultures, it is encouraged to wail – a loud cry of pain, grief, or anger. All of these emotions come with loss and get muddled up together. Wailing is part of the process of letting go. In western cultures, it is not so condoned in modern times. But you can wail in private.

After my husband died, I use to wail in my bathroom late at night with a towel stuffed in my mouth so my children couldn’t hear me.

I needed the release of letting the pain out. Visualise your pain coming out of your body and floating away on a little white cloud. Give it to Mother Earth to deal with so nobody else absorbs your pain.

To help you get up in the morning and put one foot in front of the other – don’t look too far ahead. Take each day as it comes and deal with it. Just getting through the day is an achievement. You should congratulate yourself and not allow your thoughts to go around in your head with – what if?

Know that in time you will feel calmer.

Despite how you feel, the old adage time is a great healer is true. Only then is it right to consider a longer time horizon and what you might like to do next. It is alright to take your time. It is your life and everybody grieves the loss of something at their own pace.

Once you feel calmer, it will be easier to connect with your soul through your intuition. Your soul will help to comfort and heal you. It will give you good guidance.

Try to listen to your intuition and feel your guidance.

Life Lessons

Follow your dreams and find your happiness

Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed.  It is true everyone has challenges to help us to learn. But alongside that we are meant to enjoy this wonderful world we live in. The sight and the sound of the sea always lifts my emotions and makes me feel good. Simple things like this brings me joy.

Everyone should have a dream of how they would like their life to be.  Dreams are made to be followed.

Do you remember your dreams?

Everybody dreams but sometimes it is difficult to remember them. If this is the case, before you go to bed write on a piece of paper a question about something you would like to happen in your life. Leave the rest of the paper blank with the pen on top of it beside your bed. Your soul will not be able to resist giving you something during the night to write on it.

As soon as you wake up, before you even put your foot on the floor – write whatever comes to your mind. Make some notes about the ideas and dreams you were given.

It is very easy to lose these ideas if you do another activity, even running to the bathroom or making a quick cup of tea. As you have your morning shower think some more about what you wrote on the paper. Some more ideas might come to you. Quickly add them to you piece of paper.

Do this for a number of nights and see what your dreams are telling you. The dream could be literal but it could also be symbolic. You will need to consider which it is. Dreams can be more fantastic than everyday life.

Your dream may include a visit from a passed loved one. Consider if they gave you good council in their life time.

Sometimes the dream is about something in the future which may not be meaningful until you get there.

How did you feel when you woke up?

Dreams can inspire you, alert you to a future potential danger or just be full of love, support and information.

You will need to consider the dream to know what it is saying to you. Then think about;

What action should you take to honour the dreams you are having?

It could be you need to research something to understand the full meaning of the dream. You might be asked to take a small step forward to your ideal life before more dreams arrive to guide you on the next steps. Having clarity on what you want out of your life, helps the universe to bring it to you. Being able to manifest is a good skill to have. This simple process can help it.

To enjoy your life to the full, it is important to take some steps, no matter how small they are, to achieving your dreams.

This post is dedicated to those struggling to follow their dreams and to find joy.