Emotions
I Feel So Alone: How do I help myself?
Loneliness can feel heavy, yet it also invites growth. In still moments, we rediscover strength, meaning, and the possibility of connection. Read more >
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Are you or someone you love lonely?
On the whole, other people are not very interested in what you do. Yet naturally humans are tribal. They feel happier and safer living in groups, be it family or a community.
Are you or any of your loved ones lonely?
With population movement becoming common for career opportunities and to find affordable housing, family groups are becoming scattered.
People are becoming more dependent on community or good neighbours.
It takes time and effort for a community to form and grow. Community is not only your local area but can embrace groups of likeminded people such as an interest in yoga, football, history and many other interests.
Since the pandemic volunteering has dropped by 7%.
Volunteers are often the backbone of charities and not-for-profit organisations. Yet volunteering is also beneficial to the volunteers who feel more life satisfaction. It is also an opportunity to connect with other people and feel you are making a contribution. There is no upper age limit to volunteering.
An epidemic of loneliness has generated the misguided idea that romantic love is the only solution to loneliness.
Emotions
I feel so alone….
When life is really challenging, sometimes we can feel really alone. Typically, this is at times of change. Most commonly this is as a result of one of the three Ds – divorce, debt and death. Sadly, more than one of these can happen at the same time.
How do you cope when you feel very alone with a big challenge, like one of the 3 Ds?
Your greatest friend and guide at times like this is your soul. Many people don’t realise they are in contact with their soul. I spoke to mine for years not realising who he was.
Your soul contacts you through your intuition
Emotions
Who loves you unconditionally?
Who gives you unconditional love when you need it most?
We all need unconditional love at some point in our lives.
Life can be full of challenges.
When you have lost something or someone you love and value, is when you are most likely to need comfort and support. Perhaps you have lost a child, partner, home, business or a job. All can leave you feeling bereft and upset as if your whole life is falling apart.
Even in adulthood, you can often crave your mum or someone else special whom you loved as you were growing up. From as early as you can remember, your mum was the one who picked you up when you had fallen over.
Mum is the person who loves you no matter what has happened.
When I was unexpectedly widowed in my 40s, I was so grateful I still had my mum. It was her love that got me out of bed in the morning. She nurtured me back to life. She gave me comfort when I was down. Then she turned me around and told me to go out and rebuild my life.
A mum’s love can be tough at times.
But she was right….
I wasn’t going to improve my life mopping around home.
Mum: maybe she is the very person you have lost, perhaps she has passed. It’s tough no matter how old you are.
I love my mum and the unconditional love she always gave me.
You never really loose your mum. She is always in your heart, and she feels your love as you do hers.
Now you realise it really is time to grow, to be able
to provide unconditional love and wisdom to the next generation.
Conscious Mind
Is it my spirit guide I am talking to?
Who is sending you lovely uplifting messages of love and guidance?
How do you recognise who is speaking to you? Is it your spirit guide talking to you or perhaps your own soul or a passed loved ones?
Understanding who is communicating with you can help you to understand the message. Each communicator will come with a different feel. Over time you will recognise the different energy between a guide or a loved one, much as you can recognise different people’s faces.
The most important thing is that the message is positive and uplifting. If the message is critical or negative. Do not listen to it as it is most likely your ego speaking to you. Stop the process of trying to discern the message and try again another day.
As you gain experience in discerning your messages, be it by a feeling, knowing, smell or a picture in your head, it is helpful to remember a message from different types of communicators can have a different feel. It’s much like your friend and your dad will look and feel different.
Your guide may be a little more impersonal but they can still have a character and often a great sense of humour. They feel more like a teacher than a family member. You may well be asking for guidance on how to connect more easily and with greater clarity or what you should be learning from a particular challenge in your life. Of course they will help you on these things but they also help you on everyday things that make your life more enjoyable. Life is not all about learning, it should be fun too.
A common communicator is your soul. I have to admit for years I spoke to what I thought was a spirit guide, only to find out later it was my own soul!
We all have to live and learn.
Your soul knows you well having been with you since you were born. Your soul tends to give you inspirational thoughts and ideas to help you. These often just come into your mind as you go to sleep or wake up.
Another place seems to be in the shower as the water washes over you cleaning your body, your mind seems to have more clarity and is more receptive to what your soul has to say. You need to capture these inspirational thoughts as they tend to fade very quickly. Write a few bullet points down on some paper and it will help your mind to recall the information at a later time.
Your soul will often be with you when things go wrong, you are upset or you are feeling ill. Your soul will offer you comfort, strength and support. What seems an impossible situation, you will find a way through with the help of your soul.
The final communicator and often the most cherished is a passed loved one.
A loved one is often much more familiar and may use memories of your lives together to give you a message. They come with a great deal of love and often offer support in helping you with endeavours in your life. They may also make contact to give you a message which they did not manage to give you in life. However, do remember the essential character of your passed loved one remains the same.
Initially you may not be able to identify who is talking to you. This does not matter. If the messages are positive, insightful and uplifting, just accept them as that and if they help you in your life make use of them.
Over time you will come to know who they are.
Learn how to connect with your intuition and to receive messages Three steps to hear your messages of love and support