I feel so alone….

Published by Alison Wem on

When life is really challenging, sometimes we can feel really alone. Typically, this is at times of change. Most commonly this is as a result of one of the three Ds – divorce, debt and death. Sadly, more than one of these can happen at the same time.

How do you cope when you feel very alone with a big challenge, like one of the 3 Ds?

Your greatest friend and guide at times like this is your soul. Many people don’t realise they are in contact with their soul. I spoke to mine for years not realising who he was.

Your soul contacts you through your intuition. Intuition is that feeling inside which helps you to know what is right for you. Or gives you ideas on how you might move forwards, particularly at times of difficulty. It is not that critical voice inside. Your soul is calm, balanced and speaks with great compassion. It is well worth listening to that feeling. It comes with the wisdom from all of the lives you have lived so far. That wisdom has been hard earnt in previous lives where you have experienced what has worked and what has failed. This wisdom is yours to use and help your current life circumstances.

Do you listen to your own wisdom?

You are never really alone. Sometimes it is hard to connect with others and you feel separate and lonely.

Even when someone passes and there feels a great distance between you on Earth and your loved one in spirit, communication is possible. Loving one another and having a desire to connect increases the clarity.

When I speak to bereaved people, it never ceases to surprise me just how hard our passed loved-ones try to make contact with us. Craig Klugman PhD in his report of 2006 found that 62.6% of the participants in his study say they have been in contact with the dead. Most commonly, subjects reported Post Death Contacts that included dreams, sounds, feeling a presence, and having conversations.

Our passed loved-ones send messages of love and support at times of great change.

If you are not sure how to pro-actively try to make contact? Try this;

  • Reflect or meditate on the person you wish to connect with
  • Ask a simple question
  • Wait for the response.

In addition it helps to do the following.

Be alert to receive the message in whatever way it choses to arrive – the words of a song on the radio, a bill board, a knowing, a feeling…..

You will be amazed at the results.

Whatever your situation is and no matter how dire it may seem, remember – you are never really alone.

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