The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period. Do you recognise the scenario?
However there are things women can do to help themselves. Lets look at some tips for the woman of the house…..
Tip #1 Stay calm – remember that the people coming on Christmas Day are friends and family. The day is not a test, they love you. Everything does not have to be perfect, only you want that. Do not be afraid to delegate tasks.read more
Grieving for a loss or trying to support someone who has lost a loved one?
All of us experience grief at some point in our lives. When we experience it for the first time it can come as quite a shock. It is often not talked about so it is hard to know how to deal with it.
In the UK over 100,000 people have passed as a direct result of catching Covid-19. On average for each person who passes, 8 – 10 people feel the loss of them in their lives.
The population of the UK is approximately 68m people and up to 1m of them are currently grieving. Many of them are young adults who did not expect to loose a parent so soon. 1m people is nearly 1.5% of the population, so probably all of us know someone who has lost a loved one and is grieving. The UK is not the only country in this situation.
Here in the UK lockdown has been eased so we can get back to ‘normal’ or perhaps I should say ‘new normal’. The date we started this process was the 4th July. There is a certain irony with this being Independence Day in the US.
How was your lockdown?
Mine was not what I was expecting. I thought I would be happily writing articles, creating and learning to edit videos to share with you. It was quite the opposite. I felt quiet and reflective. Fortunately I am a great believer in meditation so I retreated from the outer world to explore my inner landscape. A common question from my husband is;
Are you meditating?
Periodically I was quite forcefully pulled back to the physical world to manage a builder I had engaged who was not living up to his accountabilities. This enormous contrast between my inner and outer landscape created tensions and emotions yet surprisingly gave me clarity and insight.
I felt the need to validate my feelings and to seek out the purpose of the virus. It is my belief it is not our enemy but is bringing possibilities for change in what we feel is important in our life and how we might choose to live it. I am really sorry for the pain and suffering the virus has brought some people, but grateful humanity is being given a chance to re-consider our future and whether our direction needs adjusting.
To help me with my thoughts, I started an email conversation with my healer and medium friends who are used to exploring their inner landscape to see what they were experiencing.
This conversation gave all of us support and love through friendship. With fear and anxiety all around us it brought messages of hope, inspiration and love. We have collated the conversation along with some beautiful paintings created by our spirit artist, Irene Gloux, into a short FREE ebook. There are many different views and ways of expressing them. No one person has the whole truth but together perhaps we get nearer to it.
Have a read and see whether it resonates with you or whether your experience was quite different. Read here
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If you relate to this article and need some more help and guidance in your life – get in touch with Alison. Here are her contact details.
Feeling Your Emotions: hope – inspiration – love was written during the Covid-19 pandemic lockdown in the Spring of 2020. A conversation between Alison Wem and her friends who are healers, mediums and a spirit artist but are also husbands, wives, parents and adult children observing and experiencing the pandemic. This is a very international group of friends with 5 countries and their respective cultures represented.
=&0=&; fear, anxiety, uncertainty in a changed world, but more importantly there are messages of love, caring, support and humour which in themselves provide hope, inspiration and love.
In a crisis, nationality was unimportant but building bridges amongst us was key for feeling better about ourselves, and the situation we find ourselves in.
A short read, see what you feel and provide a comment. What was or is your experience of the pandemic and resulting lockdown(s)?
Is the pandemic bringing out the better side of humanity?
Will it be the common people who lead a sustained change in how we choose to lead our lives, rather than the political and economic leaders?
Humanity, of which we are all a part of, is being presented with an opportunity for change – hopefully for the better. Now is a great opportunity for development and healing at the personal, family, community, national and global level.
Yet here we are physically isolated in our homes, unable to share our thoughts, experiences and steer from our own soul or perhaps our guides.
‘Working-from-home’ or not working at all, has slowed the pace of life and given you an opportunity to reflect on what is really important in your life.
Well here goes, let me share my thoughts…..
I am taking sensible precautions with the virus, but I have not felt the fear many are experiencing. I am convinced there is a purpose behind this global pandemic.
I have been given the opportunity to experience fear in the last week. It affected me so much that I could feel my heart beat faster and my breath was fast, short and shallow. I could not stay still and was pacing up and down the hall in my small city flat feeling constrained.
It was not fear of the virus but fear of financial ruin. My income is from rental flats. I have spent the last year renovating them and building a new flat for me in the attic. I have had little income for a year, spent much of my savings and have a large mortgage to service. As we reach completion, we found the builder has made a mistake which he does not acknowledge and Building Control were refusing to issue a certificate enabling me to get some tenants into the flats. I was faced with no cash, empty flats, a builder refusing to take my calls or emails and no resolution until after the lockdown which is who knows when.
Fear is a terrible thing. I realised that even in widowhood I did not experience it. I was well loved and supported by family and friends. It is when you feel you are standing alone that fear is most rampant.
We are constantly bombarded by the media about the coronal virus. There are stories of people dying alone in ICU calling out for their loved ones and families not being able to mourn their lost love ones. For me these stories do not add value but stoke fear and uncertainty. I feel that in all of our interaction with others
hope, healing and change for the better
should be the basis of our conversations. Perhaps if enough of us practise it, it will ripple out to many more people.
My guide is asking me to consider the life lessons my builder is helping me with – defining my boundaries and holding them, communicating with compassion, remaining positive and holding onto hope. All of these are relevant to a locked down world of physical isolation in family units.
Perhaps you can consider what life lessons this new world is helping you to learn…..
We all have a tendency to feel sorry for ourselves. Nobody has everything. Even the rich and the successful have their challenges. If you followed them home there may be problems with infidelity, a sick child or perhaps fear of redundancy.
Matilda was from a successful family. She had become a successful teacher but the role had long hours and was burning her out and causing her problems with her boyfriend. She made the decision to change career. However to make the change she would have to take a salary cut. Fearful of telling her parents, she confided in her grandad. To her surprise he said;
We love you for who you are not what you are. All we want is for you to be happy and healthy.
After one false start, Matilda is now happily working in a new career and has a new boyfriend too!
I believe your back grows broad enough to bear the challenges you are faced with. You will not be given a challenge that you cannot cope with, even if it means making the decision and having the strength to walk away from it.
Find the strength to look your challenge in the face.
Frame it with hope rather than despair and you might be surprised with what you discover. Admittedly you might have to either;
accept the situation for what it is,
just let it go,
take action to move yourself to a different and better place.
By taking control of the situation and deciding how you will re-act to it will give you confidence in yourself.read more
Here in the UK lockdown has been eased so we can get back to ‘normal’ or perhaps I should say ‘new normal’. The date we started this process was the 4th July. There is a certain irony with this being Independence Day in the US.
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Humanity, of which we are all a part of, is being presented with an opportunity for change – hopefully for the better. Now is a great opportunity for development and healing at the personal, family, community, national and global level.
We all have a tendency to feel sorry for ourselves. Nobody has everything. Even the rich and the successful have their challenges. If you followed them home there may be problems with infidelity, a sick child or perhaps fear of redundancy.
Find the strength to look your challenge in the face.