Great article by Richard Barrett on how humans go through various stages of flourishing their soul.
Richard Barrett FRSA. Richard is an author, speaker and internationally recognised thought leader on the evolution of human values in business and society. He is the founder and chairman of the Barrett Values Centre. He is also a Fellow of the World Business Academy, Member of the Council of the Centre for Integral Wisdom, Honorary Board Member of the Spirit of Humanity Forum, and Former Values Coordinator at the World Bank.
Some relationships are meant to last for decades. Others may be deeply important for a particular stage of our lives and then begin to change.
Knowing when to let go of a relationship or connection can be difficult, especially when there is still affection, shared history or a sense of loyalty between you.
Sometimes a relationship has simply reached the point where it no longer supports who you are becoming.
Recognising that can be painful. But holding on to a relationship simply because it once mattered can sometimes prevent both people from moving forward.
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When a Relationship or Connection Begins to Change
Relationships rarely change overnight.
More often, the shift is gradual. Conversations become less meaningful. You stop sharing the small things. Time together feels more habitual than nourishing.
You may also notice that your values, priorities or direction in life have begun to move apart.
This does not automatically mean the relationship should end. People change, and healthy relationships often need periods of adjustment.
But it is worth noticing whether the connection is still alive in the present, or whether you are mainly relating to what the relationship used to be.
Not Every Ending Means Failure
We are often taught that a successful relationship is one that lasts.
But longevity is not the only measure of value.
A relationship may have offered love, companionship, learning, support or growth at a time when you needed it. Those things do not become meaningless simply because the relationship later changes.
Some connections help us discover who we are. Others show us what we need, what we will no longer accept, or how we want to live differently.
An ending does not erase the importance of what came before it.
Sometimes the deeper lesson is learning how to appreciate what a relationship gave us without insisting that it must continue in the same form forever.
How to Know Whether to Repair or Release
Sometimes we sense that a relationship no longer feels right, but struggle to know whether it needs repair or whether it is time to let go.
A difficult period can often be worked through when both people still care, communicate honestly and are willing to make changes.
The question becomes harder when only one person is trying, the same problems repeat without movement, or the relationship is being held together mainly by fear, guilt or habit.
It can help to ask whether the relationship still allows both people to grow.
Are you choosing each other as you are now, or holding on because of who you once were together?
Sometimes the answer is to stay and rebuild.
Sometimes it is to accept that the relationship has completed an important chapter.
Practice of the Week: What Are You Holding On To?
Think of a relationship that currently feels uncertain.
Ask yourself:
What does this relationship give me now?
What am I afraid I would lose if it ended?
Am I relating to this person as they are today, or as they once were?
If we met for the first time now, would I still choose this connection?
You do not need to make an immediate decision. Simply notice what comes up.
✨ Final Reflection
Letting go does not always mean rejecting the past.
Sometimes it means honouring what a relationship has been while recognising that life is asking both people to move into a different chapter.
There can be sadness in that recognition.
But there can also be wisdom in knowing when to hold on, when to repair, and when to release.
But at work, it often happens under pressure – quickly, with incomplete information, and with the expectation that you will get it right.
No one wants to make a bad decision.
Decision pressure at work is something most of us experience, whether we name it or not.
However, in fast-moving environments, the reality is this:
👉 You will sometimes get it wrong.
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Why decision pressure feels so heavy
At work, decisions rarely come with perfect clarity.
Information can be incomplete. Time is limited. At the same time, the consequences can affect not just you, but others around you.
So, you move forward anyway.
Because standing still is not an option.
👉 The pressure doesn’t come from deciding. It comes from needing to decide without certainty.
Strength is shown in how you respond, not just what you decide
In my experience, a strong decision-maker is not someone who is always right
You see it in what happens next.
When a poor decision is made:
Do you acknowledge it?
Do you learn from it?
Do you communicate openly with those affected?
People understand pressure.
However, what they respect is honesty.
👉 Trust is built not through perfection, but through how you recover.
A team can grow stronger through difficulty
When a decision has an impact, something important can happen.
If it is handled well, teams often pull together.
There can be:
shared effort to resolve the issue
increased motivation to put things right
a deeper sense of connection
But this only happens when:
the decision is owned
effort is recognised
space is given to process what happened
Taking time afterwards to reflect – and to allow human reactions to surface – is not a weakness.
It is what allows learning to settle.
Even in the most pressured environments, reflection matters
One of the most pressured environments I’ve observed is in hospital Accident and Emergency departments.
In the TV series The Pitt, doctors and nurses work under constant pressure, with critically ill patients arriving without pause.
Decisions are made rapidly.
Not all are right. As a result, sometimes, despite best efforts, a patient is lost.
What stood out to me was what happened afterwards.
The team would come together to reflect.
They would pause. Breathe. Acknowledge what had happened.
👉 No one was expected to carry the burden alone.
You cannot carry every decision forward
No one can hold onto the weight of every decision and still function well.
Because of this, at some point, you have to:
process what happened
learn what you can
and let the rest go
👉 Clarity returns when you stop carrying what no longer serves you.
🌱 Practice for the week
The next time you make a decision that doesn’t land well:
Pause before you move on.
Ask yourself:
What can I learn from this?
What do I need to communicate?
What can I now let go?
Keep it simple.
✨ Final reflection
Decision pressure is part of working life.
But it is not something you have to carry alone – or carry forever.
Sometimes the most important step is not the decision itself, but how you release it and move forward.
