b is for retaining your balance through all of those challenges in life
Be kind to yourself, you are not a magician and we all try to do our best.
Be happy with yourself if you have made the choices you felt were right. If you find out there are better choices, change what you choose to do.
As the saying goes ‘Variety is the spice of life’. When you are seeking to understand the world you live in, your place in it and who you are; variety of approach is good. By trying different approaches you might find that one gives you greater insight than another. However many people find it difficult to find authentic people who can show them their approach.
I have spent the last 20 years seeking out such people. Below are people I have either worked with , been their student or their client. I have found them helpful in my personal development. Of course you need to decide if they are right for you.
In many cultures and communities, men are the leaders at work and at home. They earn a living for the family and have more limited involvement in rearing the children. Of course much of this is changing but it is not ubiquitous yet.
Recently a 55-year-old man from a traditional mining community confided to me he decided not to follow the traditional male role and to express his appreciation of the benefits that mindfulness brought him. He is a grandfather and decided not to work so hard so he could be more involved with his grandchildren. He wished he had done it with his own children.
Need help to cope with life’s challenges? You may need some on-going practices to help you with life which develops your insight into yourself and your behaviours plus boost your personal calmness. Beyond being successful at work, these practices can help you to feel more alive, happy and healthy in your life. Â Do you need some help with achieving this?
You need a Soul Map!
For me, that realisation came in the early hours one night as, newly widowed and with children and a demanding job as a CIO, I confronted my anguish – and found not chaos and more pain but a space of calmness and route to strength and guidance.
There is truth in the saying that you can be
‘Lonely in a crowd.’
Loneliness comes in many forms, possibly you might recognise some of them;
Serious illness in either yourself or a loved one can cloud your life and make living hard. Yet our most challenging moments can also be an opportunity to learn a life lesson. Perhaps this is an opportunity to practise unconditional love, patience or listening without judgement.
Tense times waiting for a medical result is
It is amazing what you can learn just by observing people!
At your next family or friends gathering, be a reporter and see what you discover. Typical things to look for include;
