Secrets of understanding yourself

From my earliest years I happily chatted to someone inside of me not knowing who they were. Knowing no difference, I assumed everybody else did too. Many children do the same until they are seven when the practice seems to fade. I was a sickly child and spent much of my time in bed. A simple cold would send me to bed for a week to wait for my immune system to kick in. Bored and a little lonely, I kept my practice of chatting to my internal friend going throughout my growing up and into my adult years. read more

Women: Do Christmas with the minimum fuss

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Women are often the main organiser of school costumes for nativities, other social events, presents, and the food preparation for the day. Of course this is on top of normal daily activities. It is not a wonder many women are tense over the pre-Christmas period. Do you recognise the scenario?

However there are things women can do to help themselves. Lets look at some tips for the woman of the house…..

Tip #1  Stay calm – remember that the people coming on Christmas Day are friends and family. The day is not a test, they love you. Everything does not have to be perfect, only you want that.  Do not be afraid to delegate tasks. read more

Men: 3 tips for surviving Christmas

The approach to Christmas can be a challenging time. Not only is it a busy time for the person preparing the Christmas Day celebrations, but tension can run in families where couples do not agree on the style of celebrations. Do you recognise the scenario?
Lets look at some tips for the man of the house….. Tip #1  Remember your partner is doing their best to make Christmas a joyous and happy time for all. A little encouragement can go a long way. Tip #2 Rather than complain about the amount of money being spent, try to find some alternative treats or better still make or cook some. Tip #3 Try not to be grumpy if the treats you want are not the same as those your loved ones want. Flexibility at least for Christmas Day will bring family harmony. Apologies for these suggestions to the men who are encouraging, relaxed about the money being spent and flexible with doing what the rest of the family wants on Christmas Day…… 3 tips tomorrow for women on surviving Christmas.

Happiness: 5 thoughts for the coming month

Happiness is on the inside

Just looking at this picture makes me feel good.  You can feel the joy of this young man having fun in the shower.

Some tips on finding your personal happiness;
  • One small positive thought when you wake-up can change how you feel for your entire day. What a great way to start your day
  • Tell yourself; Today I refuse to stress myself out over things I cannot control or change. Let them go and enjoy the things in your life you can control. Make sure they are really what you want in your life.
  • The best things in life are free: hugs, smiles, friends, kisses, family, sleep, love, laughter and good memories. Put plenty of them in your day
  • Happiness can be as simple as; meeting an old friend after a long time and feeling that nothing has changed.
  • I am stronger having learnt from my mistakes.  Happier because I have known sadness and learnt how to improve how I feel on the inside.
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    Balance: gaining perspective for a happy, healthy life

    Balance in all you do is a key driver for enjoying your life.  Many ask,

    “How do I balance my work and home lives?”

    Many of us struggle with this throughout our lives.  Even in retirement, with the increasing trend of grandparents looking after the children of their working off-spring, balance can be a challenge.

    Who am I?: can I influence the world I live in which is so full of fear

    Am I just flesh and bones?

    Do you feel there is more to you than flesh and bones?

    Well yes actually. I am more than my body. I have thoughts, feelings and dreams. I love my parents, my partner and my children even though they annoy me sometimes. Surely all of this is part of me as well as my body.

    Your thoughts, feelings and dreams are all energy as much as your body. Have you ever felt your mother’s disapproval without her even speaking a word?

    Well of course I have, especially when I was growing up.

    You are an energy being and can sense and even read other people’s energy.

    You are energy and according to the laws of physics, energy cannot be destroyed.

    So what does that say about ‘Who I am?

    Energy transforms itself when other forces are applied to it. For example; an acorn falls on the ground. A root grows into the earth and draws water and nutrients to enable a tree to grow. The acorn transforms this food into it’s first leaf which then adds energy to the plant from the rays of the sun. So the acorn grows into a strong tree with thick boughs and lots of leaves. Eventually the tree grows old and dies. The boughs fall to the grown but they retain the energy captured in the tree during it’s lifetime. Over millions of years the wood is compressed into coal. When you light the coal, it gives off heat, releasing the energy the tree captured over a million years ago. Energy transforms over time but is not destroyed.

    Am I an acorn too?

    You have chosen to bring your energy into a body for a limited space of time to experience a life. You are your body but you are also your soul, that inner part of you that experiences thoughts, feelings and love. Through your life you experience humanity from the perspective you have chosen by being born into this particular life. When you die you withdraw your energy from this body taking with you the memories and experience you have gained from that life.

    Why would I do that?

    In experiencing a life you are given the opportunity to learn and improve your behaviour, your reaction to events or how other people treat you. I like to call them life lessons. They are things such as the value of listening, defining your personal boundaries and holding them, being non-judgemental. As you learn these skills, they become your personal wisdom. We each have learnt a different composite of life lessons which is what makes each person unique.

    That implies we bring into this life our personal bag of skills which then implies we have lived a life before. read more