Ever had a difficult situation which was embarrassing or hard to handle? Here are some tips on how to manage yourself and to respond to the situation with compassion and grace.
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Video – 3 tips on how to handle a difficult situation with calmness and grace
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Feel the fear and do it anyway
How to find calmness in a world full of anger
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On a personal note – any hints and tips on how to improve my presentation?
On the evening that news was breaking of Mrs May, UK Prime Minister, agreeing to a draft Brexit deal, I was driving to see friends who live a 1.5 hour drive away. I listened to Mrs May’s speech outside Downing street and the immediate reaction on the journey out. On the drive back I listened to a late night chat show with members of the public giving their views.
What I noted was an overwhelming emotion of anger. All were angry – the extreme Remainers, the extreme Brexiteers and everything in between. How could all be angry with the same deal? Mrs May has an unenviable job of trying to draw people together to reach an agreement.
What I reflected on was that only four days ago on Remembrance Sunday, the national rhetoric was one of:
Remembering the past to create a better future.
As a nation have we learnt anything from the experiences of World War I and II and every conflict since then?
Wars are created because somebody has something that somebody else wants
Fear can freeze us both mentally and physically. It stops the flow of life. But fear is in the mind and is not real.
Analyse with you mind what you think is the best way forward. Then trust your heart to tell you if it feels right. If your heart answers to the negative – do nothing, stop and consider other options. Your heart and your ‘inner you’ will always know what is right for you. This may not be the same thing as what is right for other people such as parents or partners.
Your happiness lives where your heart is.
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Love comes in many shapes and forms
Whenever anyone speaks of love they are often referring to romantic love between two people. I believe that love is infinite and can come in many forms. If romantic love was the only form of love, it would be quite exclusive and in limited quantities. It would be a hard world with only this type of love available to give and receive.
Fortunately for us love comes in many forms – parental, family, friends, pets, yourself. All of the important people in your life are available for you to love. In my view love is infinite and the more of it in your life, the richer it will be. Some people believe that you cannot possibly love a step or adopted child as much as a biological child. I disagree with this view. I think the choice is yours to decide how much you open your heart to love a person.
Love is an emotion you can feel in your heart which I assume is why so many pictures of love use a heart to depict it. If you focus on your heart and think of someone you love, you will most likely get a feeling in your heart.
Love comes in many shapes. It can come in an act of kindness such as making someone a cup of tea when they arrive home from work tired. An act done with love, rather than resentment or annoyance, has a different quality.
Love is a powerful energy with the ability to transform. Where there is a difficult situation with conflict and anger, you can wish love on it and it will sooth the situation. Love is a healing energy which has the capacity for enabling significant change. The situation can be a personal one or a national or global one. Given the tensions in our world today, any love you offer is very worthwhile. You do not need romantic love to experience love.
The power of payer I believe is an example of the potential change love being placed on a person or situation can bring about. Give wishing love a try. You need to wish love without expectation of the outcome. It is the receivers right to choose whether to accept it.
This post is dedicated to those trying to practise infinite love.
I would love to hear from you. What is your view on love? If you have a question or want to share your views either, comment on this article or you can contact me Here I will read every comment or email and reply.
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One of the greatest gifts you can give a child is a happy childhood. Sadly divorce happens. The impact goes far wider than the couple who have decided to split – their children, parents, aunts, uncles and wider family, friends and new partners.
The true impact of divorce is often not spoken of in a family and can continue for many tens of years after the decree absolute. Even new partners and their families can be caught up in the web of emotions. There are those awkward family gatherings when you are not sure who to invite and if everyone will get along alright.
Relationship splits, whether inside or outside of a marriage, can be painful. I have observed couples full of anger, resentment and revenge use their children to inflict further pain on their ex-partner. Some normally good parents can sometimes seem to take leave of their senses.
I have also observed couples who have ‘fallen out out of love’ but have decided to separate in a considered and loving manner. This is not always as easy as it is said, especially if one party feels there has been a betrayal.
Whatever bad things happen in your life, you choose how you react to it.
The nature of your reaction can determine how long it takes you to recover.
I had a manager whose wife decided they should split. I do not know the reason why, but they did it in the most grown-up way I have ever seen. Despite nerves on both sides, they agreed a fair split of the marital assets and did everything to protect the children and ensure they felt secure and loved. The wife taught her ex-husband their children’s bedtime routine so on a visit he could settle them to sleep with more ease. The children loved both of their parents and that never changed because they did not all live together.
I do wish parents could follow the wisdom of their children.
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Think what it’s like to be in a room with a person who is angry or disapproving of you. You can feel their anger without them even saying a word.
