Loving, caring and being compassionate with people is far more rewarding than ownership of inanimate things. People are more important than things.
Possessions clutter your life and soul. People enrich your being.
Dedicated to my mother and the wonderful two little boys in our family who represent the next generation arriving.
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In a world that often feels overwhelming and disconnected, women need each other more than ever. There is something deeply healing about gathering in sacred sisterhood – a space where you can be seen, heard, and supported without judgment. My female friends are so important to me to help support the flow of my life. This was really apparent when I was unexpectedly widowed. In the first year of widowhood, I survived by the kindness of my friends.
Modern life, with all its busyness, can create isolation. But throughout history, women have come together in circles, rituals, and shared wisdom, drawing strength from one another. Reclaiming this sacred bond is not just nourishing – it is essential for the soul.
Too often, women feel the pressure to be everything to everyone – strong, capable, always holding things together. But in sacred community, you don’t have to perform or prove yourself. You can simply be – messy, vulnerable, real.
In sisterhood, your joys are celebrated, your struggles are witnessed, and your voice is honoured.
When women hold space for each other, something magical happens – the soul exhales, knowing it is safe.
There is a unique power in coming together with like-minded women on a spiritual path. Whether in a women’s circle, a retreat, or simply a deep conversation with a trusted soul sister, the energy of shared intention amplifies growth and healing.
What you might struggle with alone becomes lighter when carried in the community.
Every woman holds her own unique wisdom. When we come together, we reflect back to each other the strength, resilience, and beauty we sometimes forget we possess.
In sacred sisterhood, no woman is alone – there is always a hand to hold, a heart to listen.
Sisterhood isn’t about competition or comparison – it is about lifting each other higher.
When women gather with open hearts, they create a force of healing, wisdom, and love that ripples far beyond the circle itself.
Find your sisters. Create your circle because no woman should have to walk her path alone.
You came into this life to learn and to enjoy the gift of life. Someone being unkind to you can feel like it disrupts this. We learn through challenges but sometimes an unkindness, particularly if it’s from someone close to you or that you love, seems to double how hard it feels.
The experience of unkindness is not the lesson.
No one wants you to experience pain.
The learning comes from how you choose to respond to the unkindness.
Your response can reflect in how you behave with others, but equally important is how do you behave to yourself. Do you allow the unkindness to strike at your heart and to unduly affect your energy and well-being?
Of course, you should consider what the other person did or said to you. Try to be clear on;
Whichever basis the unkindness came from, with this knowledge you can act more wisely with yourself. In both scenarios you will need to comfort and nurture yourself. But the learning will be different depending on the scenario.
If there was an element of truth in the unkindness, you may choose to adjust something in your life. But it is your choice, no one else’s. You should feel in control of what you do with your life. The change will only be affective if you accept the situation you need to change.
If it was an unkindness, you can choose not to allow it to impact you. This can be easier said than done, but the lesson may be about being strong such as having confidence in yourself and how you behave or make decisions, or holding your boundaries. Only you will know this.
If you are in this situation, you may want to make some changes in your life not to allow this person to do this again to you.
You are the most important person in your life
To be truly happy in your life, I feel it is about taking responsibility for it. Your choices today give you the life you experience tomorrow.
When you choose consciously and wisely, happiness will follow.
Sadness often goes hand-in-hand with loneliness. You can feel lonely in an unhappy relationship, family or city. Humans are tribal by nature so loneliness is the hardest of conditions. I experienced loneliness as a widow in my 40s. With two children life was very busy but inside I had an aching loneliness. I count my blessings that I fell in love again and my husband came with a large, boisterous and loving family.
Over Christmas and the New Year festivities many of us have enjoyed time with friends and family – even if there were some irritations along the way. Sadly many have spent this time alone. Or a person who normally lives alone, who has spent time with people, is now faced with going home to a lonely life. How daunting is that?
The 2nd January can be a sad time for many.
If like me when I was a widow, you feel lonely, rather than sit at home feeling sad, try to do things which bring you into contact with other people.
Smile at the world and the world will smile back.
Join a club or a chat with a neighbour can make a world of difference to how you feel about your day.
I know it’s not easy, I have been there.
Each little step you take will ease your situation. It does take effort and perseverance to move forward but it will be worthwhile.
If you are home bound, you can always call Esther Rantzen’s – The Silver Line, telephone number 0800 4 70 80 90 for a chat. Some call just to say ‘Good Morning’ and ‘Good Night.’
For those of you lucky enough to have people who care for you, be grateful for them. Dr Chatterjee suggests an exercise to boost your positive feelings. True happiness comes from the heart.
The Love List – write down five things you love about someone close to you.
It could be for a partner, friend, child, colleague, you can take a different person each day or stay with the same person. In close relationships we often focus on the things that irritate you rather the things that bring you joy. This simple exercise changes the focus onto the positive things in the relationship and often changes how you feel about it. So often people do not reflect on their relationships in this manner until its too late and the person is lost to them in some way.
If you are aware of a person who lives alone, perhaps a neighbour, colleague, friend or relative; take some time in January to give them a call, better still visit them, go for a coffee or set another place at your dinner table. It will help them to get past the January Blues. When you give, you often receive as well.
How do you feel?
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