Wisdom of a Mother

Pearls of wisdom your mother gave you but you did not always listen to. A reminder of what they were…..

True love carries you through life

True love comes in many guises.  We love our parents, partner, children, friends and life itself.

Nurturing love:

We are nurtured by our parents love and in our turn nurture our own children.  Nurturing love is not just about teaching young people how to behave, reason and love; it is being there when things in their life go wrong.  True love might show as listening to them when a friend at school is unkind to them, helping to find an alternate route in life when a key exam is failed.  Being a parent does not stop when the child leaves home. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Trust once broken is hard to repair

Trust once broken is hard to repair

Have you ever stopped to think about what trust is about and how much you value it?  Trust is a key ingredient for a good relationship.  The relationship can be of many different types – a lover, friend, parent, child, colleague.  Each of these relationships are very different in content and benefit to each other.  However you need to trust the other person’s behaviour; it needs to be reliable and consistent.  Mutual trust is a foundation stone in any relationship. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Challenges: 1 step to making them easier

Challenges: 1 step to making them easier

Challenges arrive in your life to provide you with opportunities to learn and grow.  Through them you can learn important life lessons such as improving your communication, overcoming jealous love or learning to receive as well as to give.  However when faced with a new challenge you may feel daunted.  Know the feeling?

Sometimes the same challenge keeps appearing in your life.  Do you find that frustrating?  This will keep happening until you learn your life lesson and manage it better. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Fear: 2 steps to moving beyond fear

Fear of something is often worse than the doing of it

Throughout our lives we face challenges.  This is how we learn and grow.  However extreme challenges can bring fear which is a very paralyzing emotion.  It prevents us from feeling and acting naturally.  How do you step through fear and be yourself?

We have all felt fear at some time in our lives.  Perhaps it was of our first day at school, a new job, loss of a partner or being made redundant at work.  The anticipation leading up to the event is often the most fearful period.  Yet when the event happens you do mange to move through it and come out the other side. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Two wrongs do not make a right

In a maths formula two negatives make a positive.  In life this is not true.  If someone does you a wrong, reciprocating with another wrong does not rectify the situation.  In fact it does the opposite and compounds the bad behaviour and reduces yourself.

You may not be able to prevent others doing you a wrong, but you do get to choose how you respond.  Your choice expresses how you are as a person and how you chose to live your life.

Dedicated to my mother and the wonderful two little boys in our family who represent the next generation arriving. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Families together

In our busy 21st century lives, there is a trend towards families eating their meals from trays watching TV rather than sitting to a table and facing each other.  Likewise teenagers, if allowed, will take their food and eat in their bedrooms.  Eating a meal at a table together as a family strengthens the family bond.  Over the meal conversation will flow backwards and forwards between parents, between parents and children.  By sharing their day’s news, family members are more involved with each others lives.  This gives opportunities to support one another and for parents to guide a child.  Listening to the conversation between parents is another opportunity for children to learn how to behave with another person and to love and support that person.  The simple act of eating a meal together provides many opportunities to learn for all involved. read more

By Alison Wem, ago

Amplify the good

Everyone has some good traits in them.  Speak of these good elements and it will amplify them.  When praised for their good traits, individuals will be encouraged to focus on them.  The not so nice elements will then be diminished and will fall away.  In this way you help the individual, yourself and the community you live in.

Dedicated to my mother and the wonderful two little boys in our family who represent the next generation arriving.

By Alison Wem, ago