Ever felt everything is going wrong? 3 tips to improve your life

Ever had a time when everything you do seems to go wrong?

I know I have, and often I have no knowledge why this should be. When the flow of life is not working for you, I have found you are either doing the wrong things or approaching life in the wrong way. One of my problems is that sometimes I just try too hard! When I do this I get too tired and make mistakes. They can be small mistakes but they can have a BIG impact – like how I have spoken to someone and then I lose their co-operation. I seem to make mountains which I then have to climb. I get so cross with myself.

If you think your life is hard and you are feeling sorry for yourself, take a look at this video. A man with no arms and legs lives life without limits.

Here are the tips to help you move your life forward.

Tip 1 : if what you are doing is not working – STOP and take a pause

When things are going wrong, and you find yourself descending into a hole (metaphorically speaking), the first thing to do is to just stop.

Stop doing anything, and take an honest, objective look around.

Before you try to find a way out of your hole you need to recognise that you are in one. That is actually much harder than you think. Many people are often so focused on what they are doing, they forget to check they are still doing the right thing. Even when they suspect something is wrong, they talk themselves out of pausing. They have lost sight of the end goal and the task has taken over!

Don’t be that person – STOP and take a pause.

Tip 2 : take a look at the wider picture of your life

Take an objective look at what is happening in your life. Consider if there are any changes you would like to make. Are there any different approaches which might work better? When you become the ‘detached observer’ of your life, you will be surprised how objective you become. This will bring you fresh insight.

Tip 3 : be kind to yourself

When you are kind to yourself you acquire greater resilience in coping with the ups and downs of life. A resilient person is someone who can manage uncertainty and recover from adversity well.

Learning to become a resilient person helps to develop your inner strength. During your life, challenges and crises will inevitably hit you. We cannot predict when they will come. Challenges are opportunities to learn life lessons. Having some resilience through an inner strength helps you to navigate your challenges and to learn from them.

The world is an increasingly uncertain place. By developing resilience you will have the emotional strength to navigate your way through whatever arrives for you. You may also have the resilience to help others through their challenges too.

Remember; a challenge is an opportunity to learn. Not taking the challenge as a personal attack is a good approach to learning resilience.

Look at your life challenges and seek what opportunities to learn they are giving you. Examples may be learning patience, to communicate better, defining your boundaries better. The list can be endless but knowing your list can be insightful.

If you have a question or want to book an appointment with me, Alison Wem, for intuitive life guidance, creative therapy or mediumship, contact me Here

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